It is Not Exciting - Part II
Continued from Part I (see previous entry)
Privacy
Keep things private. There is no reason for anyone else to know about the issue except those involved. I do not mean to lock out other administrators, but other kids, etc…Make sure you protect the privacy of the kid. If a child confides in you about a fight and stops it, great! If you expose him or her to the other kids, that will probably be the last tip you receive from a kid. Always develop an out for a kid. Make sure it is not obvious who helps with an investigation. Always set up a scenario where the kids are protected. And do not discuss kids with other parents. Not only is this just a plain bad idea, I actually think it is against the law!
Let them speak
Let them speak and listen. Often, we know the entire situation before we start talking to the kids directly involved. Let them talk anyway. Sure it they were in the wrong, they will receive a consequence. However, if you do not let them to give their side of the story, they will feel it is useless to talk to you. Make sure you give them some time to talk. Listen. Every child deserves the chance to defend themselves (even if we know they are not exactly telling the whole truth)!
Get the parents involved
Always make parent contact. There is nothing worse than calling home and saying this is Johnny’s 6th referral this year and them having no clue what you are talking about. They need to know each time a child receives a referral. I know if my child gets in trouble (again, I reiterate he never will!) I want to know about it early. I want to have the chance to work with him before it gets out of control.
This is not an exhaustive list, but just a few things that work for me. I try to handle discipline issues following these guidelines. I do have one question for you though–I have a hard time getting my students to be honest. Some are in my office weekly and of course it was never their fault. Do you have any suggestions for getting kids to be honest?